Parenting on Purpose

  Parenting is difficult. Teaching children is difficult.  And our society makes it so much more difficult than it needs to be.  Parents and caregivers use wildly different methods, philosophies, styles, and systems.  Many of these parenting methods flatly oppose one another. It is not possible to make parenting or childcare choices that fit everyone’s … Continue reading “Parenting on Purpose”

Whatever She Wants

We are raising Cat according to a fairly unique set of parenting philosophies.  We give her what many feel is an insane amount of freedom. She does not attend school, and never will unless she chooses to.   Her education consists of ‘unschooling’, meaning that academic work is not required at any time.  Any and all … Continue reading “Whatever She Wants”

Expecting Less, Getting More

Expectations are the enemy of parental happiness This is an idea I’ve come across in various places, and I find it to be absolutely true.  Embracing the concept of unschooling has been a gradual process of letting go of any and all expectations I have about parenting in general, and education in particular.  I still … Continue reading “Expecting Less, Getting More”

Walking a Mile in Cat’s Wet Shoe

An event occurred a few days ago that has led me to much introspection on behavior, and how I respond to it.   I was at the pool with Cat and our good friend. We swam until we could both tell that Cat was completely exhausted and careening toward a meltdown. So we declared it … Continue reading “Walking a Mile in Cat’s Wet Shoe”

If You Get Your Shoes Wet…You’ll Have Wet Shoes

Consequences as Discipline Cat, Dove and I were walking in the park right after it rained.  We approached a huge puddle on the sidewalk. From Cat’s face it was obvious she was pondering the question that almost all three-year-olds ponder at a moment like this.  “Which method of puddle entry would create the biggest splash?” … Continue reading “If You Get Your Shoes Wet…You’ll Have Wet Shoes”