Parenting on Purpose

  Parenting is difficult. Teaching children is difficult.  And our society makes it so much more difficult than it needs to be.  Parents and caregivers use wildly different methods, philosophies, styles, and systems.  Many of these parenting methods flatly oppose one another. It is not possible to make parenting or childcare choices that fit everyone’s … Continue reading “Parenting on Purpose”

Whatever She Wants

We are raising Cat according to a fairly unique set of parenting philosophies.  We give her what many feel is an insane amount of freedom. She does not attend school, and never will unless she chooses to.   Her education consists of ‘unschooling’, meaning that academic work is not required at any time.  Any and all … Continue reading “Whatever She Wants”

The Stages of Exploration and Discovery

Manipulation, Mastery and Meaning – identifiable and predictable stages of the learning process I learned about these stages, sometimes referred to as ‘the 3-M’s of self discovery’ while studying education in college, and they are such an accurate way to describe child behavior that they immediately became part of my regular vocabulary.  To my knowledge … Continue reading “The Stages of Exploration and Discovery”

Expecting Less, Getting More

Expectations are the enemy of parental happiness This is an idea I’ve come across in various places, and I find it to be absolutely true.  Embracing the concept of unschooling has been a gradual process of letting go of any and all expectations I have about parenting in general, and education in particular.  I still … Continue reading “Expecting Less, Getting More”

Red and Yellow make Pink

Cat has started to grasp the idea of colors mixing and creating new colors, and I’m starting to see it coming out in her play.   It was raining outside today, with no thunder. Cat absolutely loves playing outside in the rain so out we went. Today’s investigations centered primarily around a squeeze bottle.  I have … Continue reading “Red and Yellow make Pink”

Walking a Mile in Cat’s Wet Shoe

An event occurred a few days ago that has led me to much introspection on behavior, and how I respond to it.   I was at the pool with Cat and our good friend. We swam until we could both tell that Cat was completely exhausted and careening toward a meltdown. So we declared it … Continue reading “Walking a Mile in Cat’s Wet Shoe”

If You Get Your Shoes Wet…You’ll Have Wet Shoes

Consequences as Discipline Cat, Dove and I were walking in the park right after it rained.  We approached a huge puddle on the sidewalk. From Cat’s face it was obvious she was pondering the question that almost all three-year-olds ponder at a moment like this.  “Which method of puddle entry would create the biggest splash?” … Continue reading “If You Get Your Shoes Wet…You’ll Have Wet Shoes”

Preschool Teacher to Unschooling Parent

I am an educator.  I have been an educator in one way or another for as long as I can remember.  My first ‘real’ job was working as a 911 operator and dispatcher. I became a training officer fairly quickly, and trained new employees almost nonstop.  After 8 years I decided to leave in favor … Continue reading “Preschool Teacher to Unschooling Parent”